How I Balance My Fangirl Life and Real Life

my life as a fangirl

Being a fangirl is one of the most exciting parts of my life. It’s not just about liking an artist or memorizing their songs—it’s about finding joy, inspiration, and comfort in something that makes my heart race. But as much as I love spending time streaming music, watching concerts, or collecting albums or photocard, I’ve learned that being a fangirl also means knowing how to balance that passion with my real-life responsibilities.

There was a time when my world revolved entirely around my idols. Every comeback felt like a major event, and I would stay up late watching live streams even when I had early classes or work the next morning. It was fun—but also exhausting. I started realizing that if I didn’t find a balance, I’d end up burning out from something that was supposed to make me happy. 

The key for me was learning self-awareness. I started setting boundaries for my fangirl activities. I still stream my favorite songs, but I no longer feel pressured to be online 24/7. I learned that I don’t have to prove my love by being constantly active. Supporting your idols should feel joyful, not like an obligation.

this is me when I was working on this article, I was listening to my fave

I always listen to their songs whenever I’m working on something—whether it’s a college task, a design project, or just my daily routine. Their music feels like a burst of positive energy that keeps my spirit alive. As the melody plays, my mood instantly lifts, and I find myself working with more focus and calmness. It feels like they’re quietly keeping me company through my busy days.

celebrating pluggy's birthday with pieces

One of the most beautiful things about being a fangirl is the community. I’ve met amazing people who share the same love and energy. But I also learned that it’s okay to step back sometimes—to focus on my studies, career, or mental health. My friends in the fandom understand because we’re all learning how to grow individually while still cherishing what connects us.

Now, I see my fangirl life as a source of motivation rather than distraction. When life gets tough, I remind myself of the concerts I’ve been to—the laughter, the shared excitement, the moments that made me feel alive. Those experiences recharge me. The happier version of me is when I’m at a concert, surrounded by people who understand what it feels like to scream, cry, and smile at the same time.

              LYKN unleashed concert in Jakarta            

Being a fangirl is not a phase—it’s a part of who I am. But I’ve learned to embrace it in a way that keeps me sane, happy, and grounded. The balance isn’t always perfect, but it’s real. It’s a reminder that loving something deeply doesn’t mean losing yourself—it means finding parts of yourself you didn’t know existed.

At the end of the day, being a fangirl doesn’t mean losing touch with reality. It’s about finding balance—knowing when to dream and when to act. My real life gives me the means to enjoy my fangirl life, and my fangirl life gives me the emotional energy to face my real life. It’s a cycle of passion and purpose, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Today, I no longer see my fangirl life and real life as two separate things. They coexist beautifully. My passion for my idols motivates me to work harder, so I can afford concert tickets, travel, or collect albums responsibly. And my real-life achievements make my fangirl moments even more rewarding.